Jealousy that hurt your relationship

Anxiety is the fear of losing or being hurt in something. That fear can generate within us a feeling of fear which in turn generates feelings of anxiety, anger, hostility, insecurity and jealousy.

Jealousy as a sentiment, are a response to feeling displaced by the one we love, we feel or appreciate. Is a negative emotion caused by the desire of possession, by the need for someone to feel unique.

A person with low self-esteem is false or easy prey to the feeling of jealousy. The first foundation of self-esteem is the confidence and trust in yourself, if you're not, you will feel fear for the possible loss or damage which may represent the being he loves.

In a relationship where there is no autonomy and self-sufficiency is impossible to achieve growth and development of both. Too much dependence on one we love, we prevent the security we need for our love to grow without the virus of jealousy.

It is not easy to love without feeling within us the desire of possession. The selfish and jealous that they identify. We want to be loved only for us, it's my property, my conquest and not allow anyone to snatch me.

An essential element of true self is to be "aware of our realities. A knowledge that we should be clear in the relationship with our partner, we are not owned by anyone. Love does not slaves, free people do. The freedom of love is where we can grow and develop as people.

Perfect love does not exist, always lacking or indulgence in something. Absolute confidence is further uncertainty. The question always makes part of our thinking and if established, will soon be a prey to the suspicion that will lead to obsessive jealousy.

Insecurity leads us to cling to someone, someone needs to feel protected if we are unable to feel secure for ourselves.

The process begins his jealous thoughts. First leaves room for doubt. Any insignificant fact is reason to imagine that we take for certain situations, and we confirm that we have any doubts.

It awakens in us a need to seek evidence, to be sure that our suspicions are true. Everything becomes a persecutory attitude, with the sole purpose of seeking confirmation of what we need to try.

With this attitude undoubtedly find in the "other" events, which allow us to give the doubt by some that we have. The thoughts flow constantly creating anxiety, uncertainty, feelings of frustration, anger, rage, pain, invade our hearts leading to suffering and despair.

The jealous obsessive compulsive disorder becomes increasingly seek more tests will be continued to achieve its purpose. Draw upon thousands of forms, will be able to make great sacrifice to prove his suspicions.

That confirmation will give a feeling of satisfaction, knowing that I had in mind was not merely a suspicion, but it really was. His doubts were true and touted as part of victory over who loves and against all those he has been part of the problem.

The other sentiment that appears then is pain. Be offended, resentful of being ingratitude he loves. If your self-esteem is low, seek refuge in the pity, pity need it and found him right about everything.

If your high self-esteem is healthy and seek the real meaning of what has happened. How much responsibility is incumbent upon him. If his conduct has been or not, because in the behavior of "other."

Being responsible is not guilt but to respond with personal meaning. You have the ability to interpret what happens to us in a just evaluation.

For the person with healthy self-esteem and what really matters is not how to act or acts the "other" but how do I "I" react, yes it is within my responsibility.

Negative emotions produced by jealousy generate within us a power able to destroy and destroy all those involved in the problem.

I can handle that energy for better or for worse. Once verified as a fact, conflict and pain that occur must be understood within myself. I analyze and observe the anger and the anger they cause.

In my capacity to observe, analyze and to express peacefully and let my feelings flow, lies my potential cure.

If I can not handle that power, it can cloud my mind and take me to events that almost certainly will regret later.

Leaving flow and express my feelings I'm to blame, or blame others for "my misfortune," this does not fix or refresh anything.

Remember that pain is natural, is a personal experience of life, but suffering is unnatural, is set for us. There is pain that produces the suffering and sadness but it is part of the hysteria.

The prison of jealousy in my mind, releasing up to me, my attitude towards the same reality, that is where I work to be autonomous, self-sufficient and happy.

There are many rituals to ease the pain of jealousy. Writing a letter freely express everything we feel and then burned or thrown into the river, it may be useful for some.

Anything that allows us to release all the negative energy generated by jealousy, should be implemented.

Love always involves three elements that must be healthy: Spirit - Mind - Heart.

With these three pillars we can resolve any conflict that seems serious. Jealousy can be cured if we have the spirit, mind and heart healthy.

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For your peace of mind,

Bernard Silver.